Top Trial Attorney Reveals The ONLY Way to Expose a Narcissist in Court

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1. I get it

2. ❤

3. What if it is your younger brother

4. I paid for a SLAY course and have not been able to finish it, my sign in doesn’t work, how I access my modules?

5. Moral of the story, our family courts are morally and ethically bankrupt. Far too many judges are politicians and not judges. A proper judge disregards the system and acts as a judge of a case based on the evidence laud out, not what might keep him in his seat.

6. Excellent information!!!!

7. You say you need a mindset of winning
   Well im diagnosed as insane in Court
   So noone wants to listen to my story
   And my dissability pension is not enough to pay a laywyer
   And im an outlaw and live whereever im tolerated
   And just now im homeless again
   And my abusers are friends with Police
   And im told im outside the law anyway
   But in also in Europe so different system than america

8. And thank you so much for everything

9. Rebecca can i talk to you please ?

10. Thank you for this! I got it!

11. Been through it and won in the end.

    1. Arrive two hours earlier than told and park some place where the narc isn't likely to find your vehicle.

    2. Stick to your own case. Don't deal with them directly – don't look at or speak to or with them, don't worry about them. Don't respond to them when not legally required to. Don't get in their mud, let them roll around in it.

    3. Be honest but also don't expect a judge or others to give more than 50% of the weight to your claims about the narc than what they actually deserve. These people will give the narc the inch they need to take a mile – just assume that. Tell your story but don't get mad if people act like the narc has a legitimate "side" too (even though you know they don't). Let everyone give the narc plenty of string…

    4. Let the narc order the judge around.

    5. Let the narc answer the judge's questions for you and don't interrupt them. Keep it zipped tight until the narc is done making a jerk of themselves. Raise your hand and if called on, ask the judge for permission to give your own answer. Wait for the judge to respond, then when indicated, you answer what you were asked.

    6. if the judge finds against you anyway, that's ok, because the narc will continue to to push and push and push even after that, in years to come, until the judge(s) has had enough of them.

    7. Wait for the narc to break the law. They will. Then the judge will dismiss the whole thing or find in your favor, after the narc pushed and pushed and pushed. They may also put the narc in jail where they belong.

    8. When the narc leaves the court room, let them go out first. When the door closes behind them, ask the Bailiff if you can sit in the gallery for another 20 minutes to give the narc the time they need to leave. You'll probably be granted this. After 20 minutes (or whatever amount of time you asked for), then leave, go to your vehicle, and watch carefully on the way in case the narc did actually stick around to follow you. They probably didn't, but they might have. If necessary, take an alternate route with a bunch of stops at places the narc hates before going home, and spend plenty of time at each stop (presumably, you took the day off for the court date[s]). If the narc tries to engage you, ignore them, go to your vehicle, and drive to the nearest police station. Either way, eventually go home in peace.

    For real: this is how to win against a narc in court. It's not easy and takes time sometimes, but it works. Judges only play dumb because that's part of their job, but they're not actually stupid. Even if they don't know what a narc is, they can sense how "psycho" they actually are. You be the sane, rational, focused, honest, and respectful one. Eventually, even the "dumbest" judge will recognize what's going on and be truly sick and tired of the whole thing. They'll have no pity on the narc in the end. Judges hate suffering fools.

12. I get it!

13. Actually went to court against a previous partner. (had narrissitic tendencies based on her actions).

    The interesting strategy she used she served me on Friday late at night court date was that following monday.

    She wore a wig to the gym and had her friend come. (proof of videos and pictures.)

    Completely demolished the opposing party i just brought out my proof and messages and the persons words directly so they could not twist the words.(was alone against the party).

    When they tried to twist the words or story the judge put pressure and asked questions.

    The deamoner hanged on of the opposing party limping in to running out of the courtroom mad losing.

    Our judge was amazing he heard everything i had to say. (Family law then supreme court after attorney took care of that for me).

    Opposing party spoke first then i spoke after.

    Judge gave me a chance to drop the case but i wanted to end it.

    Everything you say is spot on i did speak my language completely different.

14. I think most people go into court, with the idea that they’re going to receive justice = fairness, when it’s actually about legalities. Their idea of fairness, even if they’re actually wrong or even crazy, is that enough pleading and tears will gain the empathy of a judge. Probably the main reason so many walk away feeling cheated, is because we’ve watched too much TV. Perhaps, dependent upon the type of case, it’s really about what can be done — legally. Also, they think their case is the only case. It isn’t. A lot is about sticking to law, billable hours and closure so just the facts and move on.

    I’m a pro se plaintiff, in a probate case where our mother died intestate, simply because she hoarded her house and nothing could be found (unless my former sister tore up the Will, because our stepfather’s Will (he passed years ago) stated I inherit all. The court appointed a legal admin. I’m pro se as, my younger, former sister self-appointed as estate executor, to block distribution of assets, get me to move into one of two homes our mother left, yet not actually inherit my home, likely to maintain control, accessibility and to secure her inheritance, from me. Appointing herself as executor was denounced by the surrogate office. She’s also self-appointed as plaintiff, in a motion, which the court obviously didn’t recognize and the judge told her that her motion had no merit. Although I couldn’t afford a lawyer, no lawyer would take the case, because they felt her lack of cooperation with the court meant the case was contested, leaving me at this nut’s whim. So, I had to go pro se. But, I supply as much evidence as possible, also that I knowing I may not be granted enough time or the ability to respond, in hearings, so I have everything in writing, although I still know the judge or the judge’s clerk, may not read all of it. I also may place 2 forms of my responding affidavit together. One is in short, bullet format and one is in more detailed paragraph format. They can choose what to read. My former sister’s correspondence is, typically, handwritten. She’ll present stuff like her cat died, which means she should inherit my house.

    I think, in this case, although I am not a lawyer, of court as doing battle with a person of arrested development, who still has human rights. The law protects them. They may be a crazy, ignorant and manipulative narcissist, but that’s not illegal. Further, in this climate of way bigger crimes and cases and the law not wanting to really interfere with what they consider a domestic dispute (merely because we shared the same mother and have known each other as children and barely as adults), the court would rather reconciliation, even if that means one adversary acquiescing to the other, by any means necessary.

    I don’t know if it impacts the court at all, but I’ve stated that, should my adversary decide to bring another motion, I can bring about 10 separation motions, with what I’ve shown in my responding affidavit, with actual evidence, against this adversary. I don’t think the court wants that as, while all of what I have is substantiated, they don’t want their time wasted. Don’t know they’d care or that they have any means by which to discourage my sister from bringing another frivolous motion, though.

    In this probate case, I have been fortunate, in that my adversary has at least provided enough evidence against herself, to “maybe” sway the judge’s opinion. We’ve only communicated via email, she’s admitted to things in court and lied about them to the court and police later and I also have security video evidence against her. I also filed a motion the judge would not address, in regards to the pain and suffering this almost 2 years has cost me, while this adversary is simply trying to extend probate, because she’s miserable she hasn’t been able to ignore law and inherit the entire estate. also provided evidence of her willfully stealing from the SS Admin. But, I think that’s simply morphed into being addressed as an over payment, with her not receiving further monies, rather than criminal penalties. So, whether she comes into my property, steals mail and yard furniture, unfortunately, every time the court and law enforcement do nothing, she’s further emboldened.

    I am fortunate in that deeds were distributed, with me receiving the better of two damaged homes (courtesy of our narcissistic mother). But, for issues of personal property exchange, there are just a few items left and my adversary feels that, as long as she hasn’t approved what she has received, she can keep me out of my house, when I’m actuality, I can just sell it.

15. Take out the EMOTION and put in the FACTS and TIMELINE to make a STORY for the jury and the JUDGE.

16. I get it. Thank you, Rebecca, for the genuine psychological and legal tools and aids to logically plead our state. No over the top emotional narrative assuming everyone will believe us and our plight against NPD.😊

17. You're a guy in family court! Don't seem to believe males ,no matter what the evidence!! Family court needs to be abolished. No fair and equitable there!

18. Rebecca, I have a question or two- my divorce has been over for yr now.
    It went on for 14 months- she didnt respond for 90 days to the filing until threatend default by my atty. the second hearing neither her or her atty showed, all tje judge did was reschedule for two months later. I know every state can be different, what recourse do you have things like this happen?

19. Narcissist serves you with child custody paperwork with 6 points (each one 2-4 sentences). Non-narcissist responded with 12 pages of rebuttals with 30 exhibits of proof rebutting the points, specifically showing the narcissist used character assassination and openly lied in the documents.

20. Most of your videos are good but i must disagree i believe the constitution was designed to empower the court to bring a fair judgement but now days it is run like narscist ,if there is a law that supports your side of the case the judge never pionts it out or uses it in the judgement so you have to know the law and then tell the judge the law and make him apply the law ,but i think you need to evaluate that process the court system in are time operates narscisticaly

21. You HAVE TO HAVE MONEY TO DO THIS… This is NOT advice for WOMEN who are dependent on LEGAL AID and Women's Crisis Centers and State financed Mental Health Centers, to get abused Women and Children and some Men through this… Rebecca Zung, whom I have much respect for, would not even be available for THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN and some Men, GOING THROUGH A DIVORCE from any Person who is of a NEFARIOUS CHARACTER…

22. Narcissist will lie at all costs and will build up their story year after year.

    Stay calm. Never admit to allegations
    Never attack the defense
    Stay on Track with facts
    Make deals that will protect your mental health and The betterment of your children

    Hope that helps

23. I got it!!!!!

24. I get it

25. What i did took pictures of everything, comment, likes,dm messages, text messages and write messges, pictures even if there is a chance take a picture. Doment docemt everything, if there is vedio used that too. Hope that help people out there

26. 🔥2 Timothy🔥 Chapter 3🙏

    1 🤍This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

    2 🤍For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

    3 🤍Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

    4 🤍Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

    5 🤍Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

    🔥2 Peter🔥 Chapter 3🙏

    3 🤍Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts,

    4 🤍And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation.

    Symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and how severe they are can vary. People with the disorder can:

    Have an unreasonably high sense of self-importance and require constant, excessive admiration.
    Feel that they deserve privileges and special treatment.
    Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements.
    Make achievements and talents seem bigger than they are.
    Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.
    Believe they are superior to others and can only spend time with or be understood by equally special people.
    Be critical of and look down on people they feel are not important.
    Expect special favors and expect other people to do what they want without questioning them.
    Take advantage of others to get what they want.
    Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.
    Be envious of others and believe others envy them.
    Behave in an arrogant way, brag a lot and come across as conceited.
    Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office.

    🔥Daniel🔥 12:4🙏 – 🤍But thou, O Daniel, shut up the words, and seal the book, even to the time of the end: many shall run to and fro, and knowledge shall be increased.

    🔥1 Corinthians🔥 Chapter 6🙏

    9 🤍Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

    10 🤍Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

27. I get it!

28. That organization of documentation really helps

29. We have been divorced for 3yrs ex husband using the child as a weapon to use against me and my work schedule.. lack of communication, not on time, changes in schedule, making every single exchange difficult.. I’m late for work, have to miss days, any suggestions?

30. Spot on. It’s the narcissist’s words against your facts. Only facts work when you go to court with a narcissist. Thank you Rebecca. God bless you ❤

31. Got it

32. Law needs to change. The court system is extremely toxic and cater to narcissists. Be honest. The laws are outdated and they do not care about the 'welfare of the children'. Hopefully, lawyers put their ego aside and actually try to reform these antiquated laws. There is a reason lawyers aren't respected. Please reference the ACE studies. Thx.

33. My narc husband has moved on with new supply, a former divorce client who he made super rich on alimony, after I declined to supply him sex ( was caught cheating and he was sexually abusive ). He was broke when he left the country with her. Just walked out without any closure, no maintenance for me or my younger child. I have questions about divorce. Can I get a divorce on grounds of desertion ( it's over a year already) or mental illness ( he was receiving psychiatric treatment as teenager, though I'm not sure if narc family will give me his file or testimony). If I file for divorce, will I have to share assets? ( my personal savings n my property ) Also will loose claim to maintenance n child support if I file for divorce? ( Not that I can expect anything since he is always chronically broke, has changed his career now, just living off new supply I guess. I've been advised to wait for him to file for divorce, and then ask him to lay off his claim to my assets in exchange for maintenance/alimony/child support. I don't mind waiting but I'm also afraid that if he turns schizoid or anything, I'll be in his line of fire. Also he needs lots of money to keep his supply going

34. It's called evidence, I think. Hard to argue with. I got something on video, photos, text, so I'm not lying and you can see for yourself (a beautiful folder without "I'm getting angry now" type of stuff.)

35. 1. Have the mindset that you will win.
    2. Keep in mind the court system is agnostic to your problem, and is there to implement the law
    3. Employees or mediators need to keep things rolling to get them off their dockets
    4. Calling the person a narcissist in court won't get you any sympathy. It will get you eye rolling. You need to use other tactics
    5. Create leverage by threatening their diamond level supply: their reputation, how they look to the world, the neighbors, friends…
    6. Put that leverage in the judge's terms what the judge will care about,
    statutes and precedence
    7. Take your facts and apply them to the case law
    8. Build your case with instances that the other party has shown inconsistencies with the statute with concrete written things like a text message or email. Show the patterns
    9. So now this is in the judge's language
    10. I get it!
    For me, it's difficult clients who are entitled and are liars. I make sure most communication is in writing. I can tell if a client is dishonest if they don't want to put things in writing.
    Thank you, Rebecca!

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