Attorney Shares The BEST Responses to False Accusations (and How to Win in Court vs. Your Accusers)

34 thoughts on “Attorney Shares The BEST Responses to False Accusations (and How to Win in Court vs. Your Accusers)”

1. I don’t contest false accusations, especially those made by anyone that plays golf with the boss or hangs out in their office. If the accuser is loud, melodramatic and tells their side of the story first, I have no chance of being believed. Unless I have an audio or video recording, I can’t prove anything. I can bust liars sometimes by using voice notes recording on my iPhone. I put it in my breast pocket, microphone facing up, and It doesn’t appear like I am recording them. The next confrontation I record, I will use the video recorder, keep it in breast pocket, but take it out and pretend to take still pics to document something visually all the while making a continuous audio recording. I just bought 3 hidden cameras at a spy craft type store. I can’t use any of them or hook them up with IPhone or 2 laptops. It was a waste of $326.

2. Very helpful!

3. Yes, yes, and yes!!!!

4. My first act was to trick my narc husband into traveling across the country to his mom's house. I knew when he would be there and so I went to the courthouse to petition for an order of protection and had him served. He did not show up for court and I did not care because I had all the proof in the world. There was 1 week between when he was served and our court date and he never communicated with me because he was a bully and a coward. I won my case and got my no-contact order for a year but we are still married. North Carolina demands a couple to be separated for 1year and 1 day before filing for divorce. I think every state should stay out of a person's right to get divorced. No one stops you or harasses you when you get married so why is my relationship their business? Well, so far I have got 92 days under my belt, and it's okay because he is out of my house and out of my life. Sadly this is not my first rodeo in getting divorced but it will be my last.

5. Absolutely excellent articulation and strategies in here. 11:11 is my relationship with my wife so YES.

6. YES

7. 100% Yes. I am currently dealing with an obviously narcissistic neighbour who made a false allegation of elder abuse against me, so I am under investigation. The tip about reversing the narrative is very useful, not something you will find on ChatGTP.

8. How do I save my granddaughters from the mother

9. Yes

10. This is absolutely true❤ thankkkk youuu

11. Thank you…yes yes yes….exposing a cult…is traumatic

12. Your the best gitl❤🎉

13. Any suggestion for one that's bound for self-destruction? I dont long for her apology or love, but I have a savior complex knowing full well that she wont change unless she wants to (never happening). She's got about 500 more excuses than most, but it's also tangled in a web of typical behaviors of someone childish/entitled. These excuses are all informed through religion which renders her incapable of seeing reality. I was her only good friend for years always nudging things in the right direction, but she'd go around stacking more rejections and traumas. She eventually tried to be with me and I refused to kiss her (after she cried) then called her 3 days later only to see that she had been kissing another dude. I asked and she waited 3 seconds to respond [confirming my presumption] and simply lied. I mean… all of it is very simple and I"ve always known, but never tried to remedy it past 1/5th the rate (what good would it have done?) I would succinctly call it out, but the 4/5 left of that time she spent on her phone or seeking more noise so that her mind wouldn't have to address any of these issues. Now she has found a means to "exploit" the system (which I've encouraged for years because it was the only spot she wouldn't be taking advantage of people without offering something in return) and has enough money to pretend nothing is her fault it's mesmerizing, but exacerbated the materialism and vanity aspects of her life and behaviors she emulated/became her whole identity (nothing to lean on, really). Everything hurts her and she stacked so many trigger words that she basks in her fight&flight responses. She – inadvertently – told me that a part of her does it on purpose ("she has mastered clashes".. it was as she was answering another question, but wanted to give herself a bit of value so she wrote it quickly before responding to an offer of watching one of the movies I had listed as a counterpart to her insane conditions for us to marry (context: I used myself as bait offering what she wanted in order to determine what was missing since I knew what I was getting into after 9 years of just seeing her as a kid.. never learning the notions I would bring her to formulate, herself <– nLp). She moved the goalpost several times and manipulates lies endless it's almost impressive (despite it going against her own will). A few things I had not grasped is how much her mind craves adrenaline and cortisol and her dopamine serves as jumpstart to get these natural drugs. If you think most modern women are opportunistic… she wasn't just "Chaos". I ended up finding the missing notions and it hurts to know that most of these should be taught worldwide from a young age. Less than a third of the world's population has learned these basic notions that I had instigated in her mind by being kind, caring, but also responding to every affirmation never allowing the quick "you know" statements that are enabling them to Lie to themselves and pile on garbage. The Best technique that I had not used was to write things down With her as to have a reference to avoid repeating, but I was comfy with repeating succinctly. I just didn't know that she couldn't remember as there was no means for her to attach these memories to anything else. Theology screws with this world so badly it's like forcing someone to carry a log of wood around and pretend like it's not a burden/taxing them. It even provides the worst excuses to not take responsibility for their decisions and what they say (literally). I could list the sayings that I've heard and the correlation couldn't be more accurate –> 1:1. I dont think I would've found the missing notions if it weren't for her absurd her loop. Imagine praying so hard to something that's causing most of the dissension? Especially in her case (i s l a m). I've withheld meeting people for a year after being with her because I knew I'd just move on.. I've met 3 gals this last week and I am right. While I used the year to focus on my projects, most of it reminds me of her since she represents most of the issues that I've tackled to create a representation of us (and solve mental health as a whole). So I repeat my question… Should I go beyond the limits and contact her gay friend whom she's used to create a confirmation bias (but I know to be a good person despite only being able to do so because he spied on me.. his fb came up as friend suggestion) in order to tell him and her mother these notions to help her out? Or should I just vanish and let her hurt more people and never have a shot at happiness? Because… it has nothing to do with stacking "happy". One means to introduce this would be through linguistics (quick shortcut because explaining this would turn this Already long azz msg into a novel)::: in french = bon becomes bonheur. In english = good becomes goodness (mismatch of similar words). Bon =/= happy. Bonheur = happiness. And yes, if you were to look at the definition of bon = good, you would have a shot at determining what happiness is and means just not how to acquire it Forever. Safe to say that I've had mine for a very long time and nobody can take it away from me. Hence me being drawn to help someone that merits Nothing, but nobody ever could help. Her body and mind (which she has no access to*) trust me and she's agreed to the basis of trust through some past texts that she'd double down on just to pile on some other crap to externalize her feelings.. could easily be used to instigate the implied basis required for her to learn at an exponential rate. The benefit to be with her as a friend/whatever else = my projects need that part of me (that I had when I was a young teen) that she has mastered to be propelled to night heights Quickly and she definitely needs me to save herself from the depths of her own delusions. I never wanted to be more than her friend, but there are plenty of reasons why she tried to be with me. One of them was love. She would often let go a "that's why I love you" and I'd brush it off with a joke. Aligning what she says and the chemical imbalances to match with reality aren't the hardest things, but… activating her prefrontal cortex is such a fiction novel of its own. Especially with her age (30). The alternative is to continue building an empire that will slowly dissolve politics and inculcate morality worldwide without much of any resistance. I just thought this story of hers could've been one of hope that – no matter how broken you seem – you can find your way (provided my tools exist). Simple, intuitive… withheld the means to propagate them for a decade, now… I think it's time to let go and wish everyone luck [but to never depend on it ;')]. Amat victoria curam.

14. Lol just give it back 100000 times more tell them the truth and just ignore them if they say hi or bye. My manager always puts the blame on me even though it was her mistake. And she's always saying don't text me and when I mention it to her she says I don't know what your talking about lol. Keep documentions that's a no no as I could say you done x y z but yet I wasn't there so how would I know if you did what because I wrote it down thats not evidence.

15. What happens when a narcissist not only withholds pertinent legal information from you, but somehow convinces the legal system to do the same as well?

16. Talked on phone to a different lawyer. He said what went on when at the hearing when it was placed or extended. My reply, what hearing? I think more are complicit in this. Been arrested twice now in a 10 year period. Both times over nothing. Yet what happened was right. The judge on the last appearance bond, started threatening me. Ive never been fingerprinted eye scanned voice recognition or jailed before this crap. She is 10 years of Wont Pay ordered kid support. Nothing is wrong with that though.

17. YES

18. The other children of my parents are so narcissistic

19. Proof is their Criptonite.

20. Advice please. A clergy woman i recently spoke to told the Rabbi, female, ,
    I , female made sexual advances. They will not give me details only blame me. Now Rabbi female, say I, female, cannot come to my Jewish temple or speak to cantor. they ignore their bylaws, will not investigate, saying I cannot come back until they are satisfied i won't violate her boundaries. and they kicked me out with nothing else done. talk about false accusations. she and I had friendly relationship for months. pattern follows narcissism to go to devalue to extreme discard to destroy my reputation and temple leadership supports this. Advice anyone?

21. This is a great reminder. Just what I needed to hear, thank you! I have been dealing with this situation of false accusations for over 2 years. I try to apply these techniques when communicating with the narc. 👍🏼

22. Love you Rebbeca!

23. Thankyou for these videos. I’ve been in and out of court with my abuser for 10 years. I’m headed back for a mobility hearing in August to determine where the kids will live.. I am Self represented as I could no longer continue to afford a lawyer. The kids are preteens and don’t understand the abuse that happened but are convinced they want to stay with their father. He’s a really bad guy and I pray that I can hold my own in court. *sigh.

24. Yes!

25. Interesting 🤔 that example of the tire slashed – strategy #5

26. Thank you for great advice 😊

27. I got mitigation next month and my narcissistic baby mother falsely filed child support on my to exploit me for money despite me caring for my daughter. Cause i didn't want to put up with her falsely accusing me of cheating cause she was the cheating on me with her ex. I got proof of child endangerment by her having the guy she cheating on me with playing step father to my daughter. Literally he tried to knock down the door down where she stayed that I moved out of threatened suicide with a gun despite being a felon around my daughter. Which by the way she still has around my daughter despite being a risk to her safety. So hopefully it goes well next month. It's just hard coming up with 2k for a lawyer cause she trying to financially ruin me cause i don't want to be with her bitter cheating unfit mother 🍑.

28. Yes!

29. … I've followed all of the suggested… But, as a male stuck in an extremely BIASED, PREJUDICED, CORRUPT, and BROKEN Family Law system in Ontario, Canada, EVERY piece of evidence that I've submitted to the Family Courts since 2018 have been ignored by the useless Judges!!! My Psychopathic ex-wife is Bi-polar, Narcissistic, extremely destructive, a pathological lier, literally lives in an alternate reality, has multiple-split personality, and very EVIL!!! I've been accused of "remotely hacking" into her cell phone, putting "nails" in her tires, "smashing" her car windshield, "installing tracking devices" in her vehicle, spying on her "flying drones" from 35 miles away!, "breaking" into her car and "programming every channel" on her car radio to my "favourite radio station", I've been falsely accused of "being a danger" to my 6.5 year old son, and the list goes on!… Because of her extremely unpredictable, very dangerous behaviour, and the ongoing, never-ending Falified Allegations, Psychological, Financial, and Legal ABUSE, I've been diagnosed with CPTSD!!!

30. My wife learned this is how to start fights when I had no desire. Just start throwing out exaggerations and flat out lies in front of my daughter. My daughter doesn't know any better then to just accept anything she says. When I try to refute, she laughs, talks over me and insists its all true. Then, I raise my voice and I look like I'm the aggressor. They exaggerate, minimize and flat out fabricate. Anything they can think of, they'll try it.

31. I'm at the point where 'the most honest, boring woman I knew for 6 years' was lying and cheating perfectly all along.

32. This is great advice.I always have good attorneys,because sometimes I can't believe the things that happen to me.Yeah ❤❤

33. 🤬 What they say 🗡️, and the games.J3 👍

34. In my case, out of the blue, she accused me of cheating and being a compulsive liar. I said to her okay. What else you got ? You guessed it. She ended the ephemeral relationship right there and then. I went out to do a belly dance in the rain.

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